Don’t be misled – I liked the book “Unbearable Lightness” by Portia De Rossi. I just wanted more…“heft.”
Yes, of course I read it! I read them all…plus I grew up with Ally McBeal and I love Ellen.
As I was reading I kept thinking, “OKAY…let’s get to the part where she RECOVERS already.”
That’s what I’m interested in. I feared, like most things I’ve read, it would end up a “snap-of-the-finger” deal where the author just recovers, easy peasy. (yeah right!)
I turned the last page to see the “recovery” section was a relatively short epilogue. However, it was a well-written epilogue, chronicling a foray into binge eating and over-weight that eventually ends up in a wonderful acceptance of self, a healthy relationship with food, and a positive body image.
That? I loved. I hope she continue to write more on the subject of well-being, healthful eating and happiness. She’s a great Body Image Warrior.
A few more things I’d like to address:
- Word on the ‘eating disorder circuit’ is that the book can be *ahem* TROUBLING for some readers.
I refuse to use the other t-word (rhymes with briggering) for many reasons. Essentially, I don’t relate. The only thing I can think of that causes my eating disorder is my own brain. I feel that blaming it on anything else robs me of my own power and presents me as a victim.
But, that’s just me. I have no idea what may or may not be troubling to others, but she does go into great detail about the habits and practices that were hallmarks of her disordered routine. I never looked for “tips” or anything when I was in the throes of ED. I can guarantee many people out there who are in denial will read the book. Multiple times.
If you feel like you shouldn’t be reading the book, don’t read it.
- Divulging the details (and there are many…) of her insanity is highly relatable — if you’ve “been there.” Sadly, “normal” readers attempting to understand won’t be able to. That’s natural. No one can.
Her insanity…like compulsively downing six pieces of gum while driving and pulling off the road to sprint back and forth in platform shoes… that sounds wacko. However, if you’ve been that sick, you understand. It was not “her” trying to burn calories off. It’s just insanity. She wasn’t thinking in her mind “I must do this.” She simply was not in her mind. Hard to explain.
In her book you see her losing her mind to anorexia. But the average person won’t understand.
- Most eating disorders start off as a diet, but most end up far from just a pursuit of thinness.
Portia’s experience was mainly caused by a pressure to be thin, lack of self acceptance, and desire to fit in. For me? My experience was FAR from self-promotion. More like self-annihilation.
It makes me sad how the public’s perception of Eating Disorders is about societal pressure to be thin and look like a model. For too many, and especially when you are gone (Isabelle Caro anyone?), It’s a full blown mental illness.
I was happy Portia wrote that her goals were not only to process all of this herself but to help others —including woman who are otherwise normal eaters but feel the need to diet. It’s anti-diet.
She’s a Body Image Warrior.
- Have you read the book? Will you?
- What books have impacted you in terms of body image and stopping the diet craziness?