I have such beautiful friends.
And yes, if you are reading this count yourself in.
Because without blogging…
It takes a good friend to read my ridiculousness – and if you enjoy it?
Well then you’re just as special as I am.
We obviously have something in common, which is why I want to share this amazing gift my friend Debbie surprised me with.
Debbie stopped by randomly with the sweetest, encouraging card and one of her favorite photos (she’s a great photog).
I was so touched by the beautiful message in the card – but blown away when she explained what she saw in the picture.
The peacock is looking at it’s reflection – but look at what he sees.
Despite seeing the beautiful colors in the world … his image remains stark. In shadow.
Just take a moment and look at what he is seeing of himself.
And yet….
There is so much that he is missing.
Don’t we all have a little bit of that Peacock inside?
We, as humans, are so easily deceived by our own self-evaluation.
It’s heartbreaking how we can be so blind to our own amazing beauty. And how sometimes that blindspot can leads us to behaviors and attitudes that harm us.
We are all Children of God, or for those who prefer –
Birds of a Feather.
What I’m saying is….we’re all unicorns peacocks.
Unless….you can be a unicorn. Then for sure do that.
I hope you remember this whole “peacock thing” at a time when you feel anything less than WHO you really are and what you’re capable of.
Also —
You need to know that while contemplating a clever title for this post I naturally thought of incorporating Peanut Butter …….
but then:
Pea(nut butter)cock.
I’m ruined for a while. I know I say “peanut butter on ALL the things!” but…no.
Pea(nut butter)cock? Scandalous!
But good message. We all needed to hear it I think.
Hopefully in the future when I look in the mirror and see a warped reflection I’ll think of this peacock…and peanut butter cocks.
! Or not…
that emoticon did not come out as anticipated. i’m not angry! lol it was supposed to be foot in mouth.
I am impressed by anyone who uses those smileys. I only know how to use the keyboard. But actually the face you used makes me laugh.
Peanut Butter Cocks,,,GRRRR,
LOL.
and Ps — That was Tuesday night when I was sitting there contemplating the Peacock title….and man.
The mental — not so much visual (thank heavens)– but mental idea of the PBC had me off my nut butter for that night.
Gorgeous picture, gorgeous post, gorgeous friend. And I agree with Blossjoss, this might have been your most scandalous post thusfar. Loving it.
PS; The being your true you or being a unicorn? Well, I think you’re uniquecorny, does that count?
Unique-corn-y.
Holy Gee you just made my day!!
You have such a way with words (as always).
I can be quite scandalous…I think my most scandalous was when my mom found a vibrator (or what she thought was one) — or her vagina-like Valentines day toys she got for my nephew (unintentionally of course)
http://missymiller.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/my-funny-valentine/.
Unique-Corn-Y.
That is just THE awesome. THE AWESOME.
You have such a way with words…lol.
FYI anyone reading this:
The following is a link to (IMO) my most scandalous post:
http://missymiller.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/my-funny-valentine/
awww I love that peacock picture! reminds me of the iceberg photo ive been seeing around on facebook and blogs as well…. i just tried to google it, but I couldnt find the one i was looking for! this is similar though: http://www.google.com/imgres?start=174&um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&sa=N&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&authuser=0&biw=1429&bih=719&tbm=isch&tbnid=i42an-t7N7PM2M:&imgrefurl=http://thebpmfreak.wordpress.com/2012/01/12/bpm-iceberg-syndrome/&docid=wGwMh2oF9TJS3M&imgurl=http://thebpmfreak.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/icebergsyndrome1.jpg%253Fw%253D593&w=563&h=381&ei=OUYlUbHGFsn3igKH34GoDg&zoom=1&ved=1t:3588,i:235&iact=rc&dur=962&sig=105783744556472678742&page=8&tbnh=172&tbnw=273&ndsp=26&tx=128&ty=93
Gosh I have seen that on Pinterest (but a different version).
It is so universally true on so many levels…
There is and always will be so much beyond our perception and all we can do is just be aware of the extent to which we do not know everything and never will. It’s spiritual.
I love all your blogs, you are amazing and you should write a book (with many illustrations though). Love you! ♥
Thatks Ce-Ce! Wow. That is a great compliment — my oldest and most true friends always tell me that (it was almost assumed when I was in High School).
This post is a little bit mind-blowing. In a peanut butter peacock way. I never thought about the peacock and its reflection and how we see ourselves. So cool!
It was such a great gift because Debbie knows my inner mess.
I’m dying. Tears are rolling down my cheeks. That title? The unicorn comic? Please lord make it stop. My side hurts.
You’ve forever ruined pea(nut butter) cocks for me. Which I mean as a compliment because while I am 33 and an ornithology professor, I do in fact have the sense of humor of a 12-year old boy.
Are you on the cold medicine?
LOL.
I am glad I gave you giggles because you crack me up everyday.
I wish you could have been in my brain to see how that unfolded…
“Hmm..feathers…peacock…pea..! Oh peanut butter…. Peanutbuttercock.
Oh. Oh no. LOL. etc…”
I wonder if you will giggle if you ever have to teach about the pea-cock.
Love to you, beautiful post, your beautiful person, listen to your heart! It’s truly beautiful , special, unique, you need to see it, I hope!
So sweet! <3
haha. Love you dearest. That is all I wanted to say.
I love this! Beautiful reminder to enjoy the world we live in and see beauty in those around us..but it’s also important to not forget the beauty within ourselves. What a gorgeous photo!
Yes, so often people like me are full of love for pretty much everything but ourselves.
I love myself — but I hate my behavior and often feel so defeated by my mess I forget the good schtuff.
Firstly I owe you an apology. I’ve been too crazy lately (hello, I have a mental illness) And yesterday while looking for a dress to wear on Saturday I pulled out the sequenced one and immediately though of you … and smiled and cried a little as some of my recent actions were very selfish, stupid and inexplicable. If there’re birds of a feather out here – you are one of them.
Secondly this post is so beautiful. The one that sings. And there aren’t many likewise.
And finally, gosh, is this damn screwing thing infectious? I’m sorry that peanut butter does not work for you as a vaccine at the moment, just like chocolate doesn’t help me much too.
Well at least we have those feathers, peacock.
OMG I want to see that sequined dress!
But dear I have just NO clue what on earth you are talking about in terms of an apology?
I am absolutely flummoxed.
And yeah….food in general has surpasses the level of vaccine and into the realm of narcotic )0:
Apology is for believing again in “someone” who has been extremely cruel to you and many more. I think I had a black out or something. I told you – I’m crazy!!
We are just loving people is all.
There is never really anything wrong with that… I actuaklly am not sure what is going on but I know who you are talking about and I just hope she has not spread toxic energy your way (which would be futile as I am sure she has).
I also need to add myself to this apology. I don’t know if you even know who I am, but I was also in on the “believing in someone” whom I know has always been incredibly cruel to you and even though I could not understand WHY she was so cruel, I figured she had her reasons. I trusted her. Now that I have watched this person evolve and progress into someone I can no longer call “friend” with a clear conscious, I want you to know that if I ever defended her against you or ever spoke a mean thing to you or about you at all, I am so very sorry. Though I am not in the business of spreading hateful words and harm, I may have done it and not even realized it. You are a good person and your actions and reactions prove that. And I’ve been on the wrong team this entire time.
I also want you to know, that I AM, in fact, a unicorn.
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10151306064203465&set=a.475485968464.252088.509218464&type=3&theater
Aw, girl? Are you for REAL? (0:
There are no “sides” and for sure I tell you I STILL have no idea what causes her hatred.
Actually, for the most part, any comments made on her hateful comments were usually either speaking to how cruel/crazy she is OR were her typical commenters innocuous responses… trying to overlook the craziness and see what she was REALLY trying to say. I am sure your (always utterly lovely) comments were always benign. Those that weren’t were based off what she said about me and others in her skewed and crazy view of things… especially her most recent post — nothing she wrote on it reflected any aspect of me or what or how I write here at all.
So if people don’t “know” or read here.. what else are they going to think? *shrug*
It’s just blogging anyway.
But really? I don’t feel weird about ANYTHING. It’s all good (0:
Except… well… she’s not.
But that is none of our concern. At all. Pray and move on.
You are a spectacular Unicorn.
Please let me know if you start blogging again as I did check in from time to time.
Joining in to say, I’m crazy too. Let’s all be crazy together!
Seriously, believing in “someone” just shows that you people are human. You have hearts. You like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and try and see the good side in them. It’s hard to imagine someone being able to treat others the way “someone” does when we could never do so ourselves. I know I thought I’d been overreacting several times and ‘went back’. But now I can’t NOT see her true colours – and they aren’t anything like the colours that unicorns fart.
I agree Miss Pistacio, I miss your blog too
I think the crux is that — in many cases, compassionate people who are intelligent and open minded and have been through a heck of a lot often try and “see” into others …like “what could be inside that could make her act like that” and etc. I think most people have the same sort of affection for her — but she’s too sick and unstable to let anyone in.
We’ve proven it’s just a waste of time for us (for now).
Thank you so very much, Missy! You’re such beautiful person, inside and out, and to think of all the time I’ve wasted NOT discussing unicorns and glitter and rainbows with you! Preposterous! ^_^ I won’t be repeating that mistake any time soon!
I have not read her newest entry as I refuse to continue to fill my head with her blatant negativity. I would not fill my stomach with garbage, I certainly won’t fill my mind with it, either. So I’ve no idea what she has said about you, or if she’s said anything about me, or whatnot. Because it doesn’t matter. Nor does it affect how wonderful my day has been or how amazing my evening will be with G. (I’m making pancakes for dinner!! PANCAKES FOR DINNER! That’s CRAZY!) And I will live blissfully and peacefully on with sound mind knowing that I am awesome and don’t need anyone to confirm or deny that. I also don’t need to fill my head with a bunch of ideas that do nothing but harm myself and others. So screw it. ^_^
Thank you again! You are truly amazing and I hope to read much more from you in the future! Also, I DO very much want to start a new blog very, very badly and will do so soon! I PROMISE!
Yay Brinner!
Yay new blog!
Yay for saying bye bye to toxic people!
If I were at a cock-tail party (oy!) and surrounded by people who did not like themselves – for all reasons, for few reasons, for any reasons – I would stop the fracas of the noise and the drinking and the what-not, and say this:
Please. Take a few moments to slow down. When you most hate yourself, please – try to look for the little child inside you, who is all alone and scared. Please, then, tell me how you would approach that child….. You might kneel down, I bet, and say to that child, “I will help you”. “If you are scared, I am here.” “If you need comfort, I am here.” “I will not leave you.”
We ALL have Our Child inside us. And yes, for whatever reasons, we have left her, or him. Abandoned her, or him.
I am learning to be gentle with Me, Missy.
It is okay.
Yes, my behaviors – some of them persist. But I must forgive myself, like I forgive others.
I see beauty in my Self.
I see beauty in Others.
I see beauty in the World.
I love you, Missy Miller, blogger extra-ordinaire. You are the cat’s pajamas and the whole nine yards.
Love is a many splendored thing!
Wow, Leslie.
You are truly splendid.
Your statement on the inner child really hit home…
Hey fella Florida gal!!! Just saw what you cutely wrote on Sooz’s blog… If ever I could come back there right now, I so would. I hate Canada! Well, kinda… some days more than others. I had a tough week. Felt depressed, and today got hate mail from someone that really counted for me back in Paris. This is life, huh. But your little comment made me smile. Thank you for being you!
No! What a shame for such a beautiful harbinger of light and delight like you!
It’s not even fair….
I how things are slowly turning around for ya.
Oh hot damn. I need this post. I have needed this post for like a month now. I have been wayyyy too hard on myself. Time to stick out my cock feathers.
YES M’AM!
You are THE awesome.
And LULZ over “cock feathers”
I always love your posts!
Pea(nut butter) cock totally killed me btw
You should have been there when I innocently contemplated it. LOL
I love this post. The peacock looking at himself in the window reflection…..
My goodness what a beautiful bird.
It reminds me of a time when I got to visit a park where some peacocks lived and I danced with one. It was a slow careful dancing, more like tai chi, so as not to disturb the guy. But his grace and beauty and stately manner just called me to respond in movement. It was very pleasing to me that he seemed curious and stayed near by.
My ‘peanut butter’ is ground coconut. Its delicious, and healthy, but I might be eating more than is good for me. That’s better than other stuff I used to use/do so it stays for now.
YOU DANCED WITH ONE?
Wow.
Just wow.
I wonder if it fanned its feathers.
Oh I so understand the “maybe not the best thing but better and so it stays” deal in regards to food. I do agree. We have to preserve sanity first.
Well I like to think I was dancing WITH the peacock….I don’t know what he was thinking we were doing. Yes his feathers were in full fan. I guess that might mean he was trying to warn me away doesn’t it? Aren’t the ‘eyes’ of the feathers to warn away potential predators? But then again they are also for attracting potential mates too….Well I guess all I can know is that I had a good time and he didn’t seem too upset with the experience.
Another interesting aspect to this little story is that I was with a lady that I took care of at the time…I was companion/caregiver to a lady who had developmental disabilities and she didn’t talk at all so we’d just DO stuff together and focus on non verbal ways of relating. She just adored the peacock and when I danced with him she mirrored my dancing a little and laughed the whole time.
I love this post. It’s so true, we don’t see the beauty in ourselves that others do. We don’t see the whole picture, just bits.
xx
There is beauty to be found everywhere, in everyone, all around, because it’s a beautiful world. And God made us, He who made this world… I can’t see Him making crap!
well.. he doesn’t make crappy people … they make themselves. He saves them (if they will).
Sometimes I think the crappy people don’t see themselves correctly either.
Just the dark shadow of their trues selves, and then they must fill it in with faulsity.
Love this!!!!!! And love YOU!